I was bored at school one day and made this for Matt. It turned out better than I expected. I’m determined that he receives a crappy card from me for every occasion. So far I have made this, a birthday card and a Valentine’s Day card (obviously, I have too much time on my hands).
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Today marks our 6th month together. Craziness!! When we started dating, I honestly didn’t have any expectations in regards to this relationship and what I wanted out of it. I just knew that I liked him and I wanted to see where it would lead. 6 months may not seem like a long time to some people - especially my friends who have been with their significant others for 5+ years - but it’s special to me. I never really imagined myself with anyone tangible. It seemed that I always wanted what I couldn’t have.
Being with Matt has surprised me in so many ways. Before we started dating, he would always make fun of me and be mean. When I got to know him better, he was actually very sweet. I hadn’t seen this side of him before. It kind of scared me because I wasn’t used to being treated so well and it totally clashed with the “Matt” that I had known before.
One aspect that I really enjoy about our relationship is that it’s so effortless. I don’t mean that we don’t put effort into each other, but that we can just be ourselves. We can do what we want to do and the other person is generally okay with it. We’re not picky about what we do or what we eat. We listen to each other and laugh together.
I’m very goofy and I love to make up a million and one possibilities in my head. I’d like to believe that anything is possible. Matt is more toned down. He considers himself a very serious, intellectual person. At first, I didn’t know how to talk to him about the things that he wanted to talk about (serious stuff). I questioned whether or not I could make him happy. Now I know that I do make him happy just by being myself. He LIKES that I sing all the freakin’ time, my lame jokes, and my ajumma style. Just kidding - he doesn’t like any of those things, but he tolerates it because that’s me :) We’re not alike in a lot of ways and that’s okay. I make an effort to take interest in the things that he likes and he does the same for me. Matt started watching Adventure Time and I played one of his favorite video games… Come to think of it..I’ve probably done way more stuff he’s interested in than the other way around. HMPH!!!
The past 6 months have been wonderful, however, just like any other couple, we have “fights”. When I’m upset I want to be alone, reflect and think about the reasons why I’m mad - are my reasons justified or not? Many times I realize that I’m mad for reasons that aren’t that important - I can let it go. Matt would rather talk it out in that moment. He gets annoyed when I don’t want to talk to or see him (this happened twice that I remember). During these times he always asks me if I want to break up, to which I respond, “No. Why do you always ask me that?” I’m proud to say that we had a mature discussion about the issues that bothered us each time. We want to understand and communicate better, so we’ll continue to push each other in the right direction.
I’m so fortunate to have such an amazing boyfriend. Our relationship isn’t perfect, but it’s pretty damn close in my eyes. For most of my life I saw many people in relationships, but I was rarely ever in one myself. Those people never seemed completely satisfied or happy in their relationships. To be honest, I wasn’t really happy in my last relationship either. Thank you Matthew for showing me what a great relationship can be like.